Real Life Behind the Facebook Posts
Joining facebook years ago took a little encouragement from friends and family. I was not too big on the social media kick but I gave in. Shortly after being on facebook, I started enjoying the fact that I could share pictures and see pictures of friends and family from all over the world. However, I wish I had learned much sooner how serious of an epidemic facebook and other social media would eventually create.
I am by no means against social media. In fact, I love it. I can’t imagine NOT being able to see pictures of my cousins serving as missionaries in Africa, posts about what my cousins in California are up to etc. Facebook helps create a way to stay connected even hundreds of miles away!
I spent years seeing how perfect everyone’s lives are, how involved all the other moms are with their children, how happy and well-behaved children everyone seems to have, and the list goes on and on. I looked at myself as a COMPLETE FAILURE in life. My house was never clean like all the other houses looked in their pictures. I felt like no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t do everything all the other facebook moms were doing. My kids fought every day. I couldn’t go out in public without a meltdown from my youngest. I felt out of control, inadequate, lonely and failing at everything I did.
Depression Set In
Comparing myself to others became a normal routine. I would tell my husband that I was not as pretty as this person, as friendly as that person, I was a terrible mom, my kids hated me, etc.
When I was admitted to the hospital for serious depression, I had a lot of time of analyzing my life. One thing I realized is that a lot of those happy people on facebook are also “failures”, unhappy, depressed etc. No one lives that perfect happy, perfect life that is shown through social media.
Life Is NEVER Perfect
No one wants people to see their faults and failures so, of course, why would they post pictures showing it? All we see on social media is the best in everyone’s lives. I learned a valuable lesson through my depression. LIFE IS NEVER PERFECT.
I have seen people who one day posted about how much they loved their family, how blessed they were, how happy they were and then the next day find out they committed suicide. Everyone just assumed they had it all together and were happy with their lives. No one reached out to them because no one had a clue how depressed they really were.
For the longest time, I hid my depression. It was easy because I wanted people to think I was ok! I wanted them to think I was the perfect person facebook portrays. But behind the many many smiles was absolute brokenness.
What I Learned About Facebook Through My Depression
Again, I am not against social media but I have learned to take the time to not only see the perfect lives shown on facebook but I see the hurt behind the smiles. I send more private messages trying to encourage others.
Always remember that there is more hurt that you will EVER see. There are more tantrums, more talking back, more disobedience than other moms post about on facebook. Husbands and wives DO have disagreements. Husbands are NOT always bringing flowers. Dishes will be in the sink. Laundry will pile up. YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE! You are NORMAL!!!