Written by our 13 year old son’s birthmom. Here is a birthmom’s insight on open adoption. Please help share this so other women who may be contemplating adoption can get an inside look to an open adoption!
Have you ever thought about what life is like for a foster child? Here they have been taken from their parents, placed with perfect strangers, given a new bed to sleep in, and so much more. Putting your self in their shoes helps put things into perspective.
Children Adopted Into a Family of a Different Race
This world is a little mixed up right now. In some places, racism has seemingly decreased but in other areas, not so much. Back in 1955, racial segregation was at its peak when Rosa Parks refused to give up her seat on a city bus. Life didn’t change as quickly for African Americans as it should have but it did BEGIN to change their lives for the better. Despite all these changes, there is still SO much racial hate in America. Raising a child of another race (whether they are Caucasian, African-American, Hispanic, etc) also brings its own challenges.
This post is sponsored by Cord Blood Registry ® (CBR ®), but the opinions expressed here are my own.
One Thing I Wished I Had Done Differently With Open Adoption
Adoption can be a scary thing for a lot of reasons. Although the benefits are GREAT, there are fears. Fears of the birth parents changing their mind are the initial fear most adoptive parents have. During the preliminary process, the birth, and the days after, adoptive parents minds are on all the fears of the unknown of the right then and now. Often, looking down the road at the possible obstacles that adoption can have is not on the brain until after the relinquishments are signed and the waiting period is over. I have ONE thing that I would have done differently with my boy’s adoptions.
Adoption is not for the weak at heart. I know this because we live it. I love my children more than they know and the blessing of adoption really is a blessing to both us AND the kids. Along with the blessing comes hard conversations. Adopted children have their own fair share of questions about their identity that we as parents are to help guide them through. This in itself is one big reason we chose open adoption for both of our boys. My daughter is a different story.