It seems these days that a lasting marriage is almost a thing of the past. It has become all too easy to just call it quits for some couples. As women, we must realize our proper role in the relationship. We have to do our part even if our spouse seems to be led astray. No one said that being married was going to be easy. However, you can have a joyful long lasting marriage with a little patience, work, and loving sacrifice. Selflessness comes to my mind when I think of what it takes to turn a failing marriage around.
God designed a woman to be a helper for her husband. We are not meant to be the head over our husband, trying to carry his burdens. Men were created to be honored and obeyed, all while loving their wives. Men need a wife that will be interested in them and put them before a career, friend, or other family member. They want to know they are important in your life. They desire to be needed.
Creating a Lasting Marriage
Trust me, when you realize your proper role as wife, the quality of your marriage will dramatically improve! PLEASE don’t get me wrong. I don’t mean that women are supposed to be a door mat to their husbands. I simply mean we should be encouraging, loving, and sensitive to their needs. When we practice these simple acts, our husbands will want to please us in return.
One of my favorite authors sums it up this way:
“God called the woman a “help meet.” Men were created to need a helper, a cheerleader, a listener, a healer, and a host of other things only a good woman can provide.” – Debi Pearl
–> Selflessness – the quality of unselfish concern for the welfare of others..<—
Even if your husband is not being very lovable, love him the best you can. Pray for him. Spend time with him. Don’t give up. What doesn’t kill you will make you both stronger. You can have a marriage made in heaven!