I can remember a time in my life when my marriage wasn’t that great. I was so consumed with my own hurt feelings that I could not see what was happening around me. You could have called me a “laundry hoarder”. 🙂 All joking aside, hoarding really is a serious disorder. The reason I say that is because I would let the laundry pile up so badly that it would consume the whole bedroom floor. Seriously, my whole house would be spotless, except my bedroom. You could not even see the furniture or the floor! It was like my dirty little secret.
One day my youth pastor’s wife came by to visit. We were friends and she had three children who loved to come over and play with mine. I believe she needed a band-aid or something so I went upstairs to get it. Without me noticing, she followed me upstairs and right into my bedroom. GASP!!! I could have croaked right there. But, surprisingly, she just stood there with hand over mouth and started laughing. She said “I’m so glad to see this. Now I know you’re not perfect.” Oh dear!! So obviously I had everyone at church fooled. I was deeply hurting inside and all of that mess was like the turmoil in my mind.
After Christian marriage counseling, I learned a lot about my husband and a lot about myself. One of the things tearing my home apart was that bedroom. It was not a sanctuary for my husband and me to be alone and bond in. It was a bed in a sea of dirty laundry.
Do your chores! When I began to “housekeep” my marriage improved. The stress level reduced dramatically. It was nice to not be woken up at 4:00 am by a cranky husband searching for work pants – or by aggravated children that couldn’t find socks or underwear after their bath. It shames me to admit this time of my life, however, my journey here is to encourage others. If I can help one person through my trials and learning experiences, it is well worth the embarrassment.
Housekeeping is therapeutic. There is a sense of accomplishment when the duty is done. Set good examples for your children, daughters. What they see now, is what they will imitate. Pray for wisdom in being the homemaker God intends for you to be.
Her children arise up, and call her blessed, her husband also, and he praiseth her.