Dear Mama, it’s OK to not like your kid
Loving your kid is a given liking them is optional
I’ll begin this post with a small request … Please, don’t judge me.
See, I don’t like my kids.
It’s not every day that I don’t like them. Some days there’s no one else I’d rather hang out with. But then there are other days … there are some days I question my sanity for WANTING to reproduce such little hellions.
It’s taken me a long while but I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that some days I’m just not gonna like my kid.
And that is ok!
There are days I don’t like myself. Much less anyone else. So why would I put undue pressure on myself to like someone else 100% of the time?
Wanna know what I do on the days I just don’t like my kid?
I take a deep breath (try not to scream as I exhale it). Then I take another deep breath. Then another. Then I give them a hug. It’s hard to be upset with someone you’re hugging.
Sometimes it works – sometimes it doesn’t and I come outta the hug as disgruntled as I went in.
But, even on the days that I don’t like my kid and he doesn’t like me back – I’ve shown him that I love him.
My love is not contingent on my feelings.
I’ll love them always.
I’ll like them sometimes.
And that is ok.
Struggles appear at every age and every stage – we need to learn to continually be there for our children even when it isn’t easy.
*Written by Guest Writer
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